Have you ever wanted to do something but couldn’t bring yourself to do it? Or desired to feel a certain way, but something keeps you from reaching that desired state? Perhaps you’ve always wanted to think more positively or congruently with your actions, yet your thoughts drag you back to the ‘other’ less inspiring thought frames? What is it that gets in the way?
It seems to have tremendous power; whatever creates these blockages, wouldn’t you agree? Perhaps it’s fear? Or maybe it doesn’t feel like fear? But did you know fear can dress up in different outfits? Overwhelm, nervousness, tension, resistance, and avoidance stem from fear.
When there’s resistance in your life, it denies your truth. Resistance and fear alike incidentally convince you of one thing and sinisterly persuade you to live out the intentions of that pretence.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela.
Fear can be biochemical or emotional, and both are very real. Biochemical fear is a fight/flight/freeze physical response, while emotional fear is very different yet equally influential. Emotional fear is quite dangerous because it’s personalised and can influence moods and behaviours. Both can get in the way of achieving what you want in life.
Now, I’m hoping you’re wondering how to move through it?
Where your mind goes, energy flows. Have you felt the truth and effects of this powerful statement before? Understanding that energy flows where your mind is focused can be helpful. Of course, it will depend on whether your mind’s focus supports your intentions, goals, and aspirations regarding how you want to live. Interestingly, the mind can experience conflicting thoughts simultaneously. Think of a reasonably undesirable past event you never wish to relive. In one single revisit of this event in your mind, you are likely to experience unpleasant feelings as if you are there in real time. Simultaneously, you might also experience positive motivation to create a different outcome if you were to re-experience a similar event.
In one thought, you can move away from non-productive behaviours while acting constructively. This cognitive function is part of the decision-making process where people try to create better for themselves. Despite this ambition, it is common for people to continue to behave in ways that don’t truly reflect the person they want to be, stopping them from creating the life they wish to live – because something gets in the way.
“Resistance is never the agent of change. You have to embrace the actions that are going to get you closer to your goal.” – Ali Vincent.
What the mind represses, the body expresses. When situations and events are left unresolved, the body finds ways to express them, resulting in a metaphysical experience.
As an experiment, think of an unresolved problem that left you feeling uncomfortable, perhaps even upset, or shattered as a human. Now, take a moment to think about:
How did that event affect your thoughts?
How did you feel in and after that moment?
How did your feelings interfere with how you went about your life following that event?
How did your behaviour/s change?
What were the differences in your thoughts, confidence, and behaviours before and after that event?
Did that event alter your perspective of life?
“Move with the flow. Don’t fight the current. Resist nothing. Let life carry you. Don’t try to carry it.”- Oprah Winfrey.
There are two ways to ride a rollercoaster: surrendering and becoming part of the ride or fighting the ride on every twist and turn. Life is like a rollercoaster, and it is within your capability to choose how to ride it. If you feel like you haven’t realised this capability, I am here to support you and help find ways to realise such potential in you!
Physically, as soon as you notice physical tension, pressure, or increased discomfort, understand that this is the clearest sign your body is communicating with you that it has been triggered.
Emotionally, when you feel a rise of difficult emotions or experience overwhelming feelings, this is your body communicating with you and letting you know that it is triggered.
Mentally, when your thoughts are stuck on repeat, and you find yourself thinking in a negative spiral, your mind and body are communicating with you that it is triggered.
Your whole body is your compass, directing you to pay attention to enhance your life.
“I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship.” – Louisa May Alcott.
The more thought, feeling or action is repeated, the stronger it becomes, whether they are a hindrance or an asset to our reality. Ideally, the roller coaster of life can be joyous and fun and take you from one incredible destination to another. However, if your roller coaster is set into a fear-based gear, unexpected twists and turns may startle you, leading you to stagnate rather than act, and resistance becomes a normal state of being.
“When in doubt, choose change” – Lily Leung.
Notice and feel your body’s attempts to communicate with you; feel the resistance, acknowledge it’s presence, question it’s intention, remember what’s important to you and do it anyway because changing course is your best option for riding the life you would love to live!